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February 2013
       

One of the first ‘words of wisdom’ ever taught to me was Honesty.  Honesty is always to best policy and I have tried to install that in my children and grandchild and live by those words each day…unfortunately, many in this world have been taught differently and how very frustrating that is.   When you make a mistake and you certainly will sometime in your life, step up to the plate; apologize if this error has affected others and put forth every effort to make it right! 

           

For the past few months, my hubby and I have been looking for a smaller car/SUV that can be flat towed behind his new toy…yes, he finally got his RV.  After the first trip in the new monster it became very apparent that the purchases do not stop with the home on wheels – First you must stock it with every kitchen, bedroom, bathroom, living-space and outside items imaginable and then of course, there are a few fun things that for some reason, become must haves. But in addition you must have transportation when the RV is parked and set.  So the search for a small SUV began.  After visiting and test-driving every SUV on the market, it was confirmed that there are only two makes that can be flat towed – Jeep and Subaru but not all models of either but that surprise came later.   My preference of the two was the Jeep Compass – a mini model of the Grand Cherokee and after lengthy conversations with the so-called specialists at Jeep we were led to believe the Jeep Compass was the perfect small SUV for our needs.

           

We finally stopped by our local Jeep dealership and felt that all would be good here – unfortunately that was not the case.  Hubby asked the key question – can this Jeep be flat towed and after confirmation from the salesman and the location manager we sat down in the office and ‘built’ the perfect Jeep Compass for our needs.  The sales manager ran the check in a 100-mile radius and one Jeep was to be found…110 miles away.  Surprise, it had an additional $3,000.00 of extras, and could be in our hands within 12 hours. Hubby and I went to dinner to discuss the situation and of course decided to go through with the purchase.  While sitting in front of the sales person we again confirmed that this vehicle COULD be flat towed behind the RV and again was assured that it could and with a forth confirmation on the Jeep Compass, we put pen to paper and the wheels of the purchase were in motion including a security deposit to lock the purchase percentage, price of the vehicle, all items on the vehicle and most important to hubby was the solid confirmation that this little Jeep could be flat towed behind our RV.

                       

A few days later we went to the dealership to pick up the Jeep and the surprises began…I call this the typical bait and switch; hence one of the main reasons car salesman are labeled with a bad reputation.  No offense with this statement – it is like so many other fields, my profession included.  One bad apple in the barrel will spoil the entire batch.  Moving on… First the purchase percentage was increased one percent; next the finance manager at the dealership ran my credit check three times on an almost perfect score dinging my score 19 points; but what was most disturbing was that both the salesman that we were working with now said that they did not discuss the flat tow request with us nor was it even mentioned and that did not sit well with hubby.  After some back and forth conversation, the interest rate was locked at the promised rate, the assurance that it could be flat towed was again confirmed and we drove off the lot.

 

Two days later, we received a call from the manager/finance supervisor with some very upsetting news stating that he Jeep Compass cannot be flat towed but the dealership will resolve the issue because we were misinformed. OMG!  Rather than going on with the list of events that transpired for the following two weeks including letters and phone calls to the corporate office, the situation was ‘pacified’ by the dealership and the wrinkled pages of this book are closed. 

           

Moral of this story, Honesty IS always the best policy.  It is human to error so just step up to the plate and put forth every effort to make it right.  A bold face lie is just unacceptable no matter how badly you want a sale and these two salesmen did exactly that, not to mention the constant chomping of gum and dirty shoes…but that is another issue.   All right, now I am being naughty but for heavens sake just be honest!   If you make a mistake no matter how large or small, be honest about it.  If you are not knowledgeable about a product or subject or have any doubt just admit it and get the needed information - don’t make promises you can’t keep because no one looks good with egg on their face and as they all way, ‘What Goes Around, Comes Around’…

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January 2013
       

It is already the middle of January, 2013 -  The calendar is as clear as newly fallen snow – only we as individuals can determine the footprints that we wish to following the blanket of white.    This year I will tread lightly on this clean path making each step meaningful and memorable  - yes, I am a romantic but wouldn’t it be wonderful if we all walked together this year?

Each year we all make promises that we hope to keep, make better or improve upon making conscious efforts to make our lives and the lives around us better.   Each year I promise myself that I will eat better, exercise more, get the sleep that my body requires, make time for family and friends and most important, appreciate all of the blessings that I have been given.  But this year I have another promise that I truly hope to honor; to direct all of my efforts and energy using the word WE, not I, beginning here and now. 

When my book was published in the Spring of 2011, a blog and twitter account were both set up for me by my PR representatives so that I could post and share.   Unfortunately, I did not take advantage of it on a regular basis – it seemed that there was always something that needed to be done and places to be so the posts and messages were placed on the back burner – NO excuse.   You see, I realize that words no matter how profound or general have a most definite effect on anyone who chooses to read them – a spiritual book can be read by thousands and its meaning will often vary from one person to the next; but the words will have an effect on the people who read the words and take what they may from the messages.  A self help book, a conversation with a person of wisdom, a lecture from a business professional in a conference room are just a few sources of words that have meaning and it is up to us as an individual to take from those words, learning and growing along the way.

One of the most profound four words that is repeated time and time again is:  Always be true to yourself - Can you imagine how amazing things would be if the words spoken from our lips, the lips of our leaders, friends and family were true and honest coming directly from our hearts, based and honesty and spoken with integrity?  No promises that cannot be kept; no empty words that just fill up space and certainly no words that are spoken because it is ‘assumed’ that they are the words that we all want to hear.    Just true facts and with every fact the intent of making life better…

There are no guarantees in this life, just hope and dreams.   And everything that is worthwhile has a price – there are no free lunches and no one is ‘entitled’; we all work together as one for success.  Words…What are your thoughts?

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September 2012
       

For years I have been taught that patience is a virtue… well, it is not so that phrase is now out of my vocabulary.  Patience is a characteristic, a challenge for most and a wonderful quality for those for have it.  Patience with my clients is expected; something that must be apparent on a daily basis - They are my clients; I have been contracted by them to perform in a specific manner which includes honesty, integrity and professionalism.  Patience with my family is upon times challenging; personal expectations get in the way of common sense creating tension and out bursts of emotion but in the end they are my family and the love and pride for our family members will always win in the end.  But patience with ones self?  That is unfortunately a trait that is most difficult for me personally especially when it comes to help issues.

Recently I had a surgery which mandates a total of six weeks in a cast, very limited walking or movement and walker; non of which did I take seriously until the actual surgery took place.  Six weeks for me to be forced to sit in one spot with my leg elevated above my heart means limited work on the computer, no normal play with my grandkids, no cooking or entertaining in our home and no events.  So what does one do?  I have read everything possible about the Tudors; played every game on my IPAD, talked on the telephone with family and friends until my ears are numb from the pressure of the phone pressing against my ears and at least 100 times a day, I have said ‘I am done with this’.

This morning, I got word that someone I knew while growing up in another state lost her battle with Cancer.  I heart filled with tears and I felt this extreme blanket of guilt that took over my soul.  How could I be so selfish as to complain about a few weeks of inconvenience when so many others have so much more on their plate.  I was embarrassed about my lack of patience for something so minor in comparison to what the family of this dear person has been going through.

When things become difficult or challenging there is a phrase that has been said for many years that ‘the grass always seems greener on the other side of the street’ and that if we are patient good things will come.  Today was a perfect example of this and although patience is not one of the listed virtues, it is a quality that I personally will work hard to improve one.  Look at your life and the lives of those around you today - do you hold the quality of patience?  If not, perhaps that should be your September resolution…

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September 2012
       
Today marks the day of great loss and sadness; it also marks the day that brought the people of the United Stated together as ONE.  No political party, no color, creed or religion - we the people came together as ONE.  How quickly we forget… 
On 9/11/01 the United States Flag was flying proudly on every business business, displayed at every home and today in this neighborhood there is not one flag to be seen.  We will never forget 9/11/01, where we were when the Twin Towers were attacked, the  feeling of helplessness as we watched the attack on the Pentagon and the overwhelming pride that filled our hearts when we heard of OUR american people coming together to reclaim the United Flight…How quickly we forget.
Today I wil fly the American flag in honor of this county, in appreciation of the soldiers who still fight for our freedom and in memory of 9/11/01 and I encourage you all do to the same -  It is our duty as we the people.  

Today marks the day of great loss and sadness; it also marks the day that brought the people of the United Stated together as ONE.  No political party, no color, creed or religion - we the people came together as ONE.  How quickly we forget… 

On 9/11/01 the United States Flag was flying proudly on every business business, displayed at every home and today in this neighborhood there is not one flag to be seen.  We will never forget 9/11/01, where we were when the Twin Towers were attacked, the  feeling of helplessness as we watched the attack on the Pentagon and the overwhelming pride that filled our hearts when we heard of OUR american people coming together to reclaim the United Flight…How quickly we forget.

Today I wil fly the American flag in honor of this county, in appreciation of the soldiers who still fight for our freedom and in memory of 9/11/01 and I encourage you all do to the same -  It is our duty as we the people.  

09
September 2012
       

It’s funny how even after so many years, the ones who were so special to us and still missed and continue to guide our lives.  My father has been gone since June of 1985 - he would have been 97 years old today.  I woke up this morning and the first feeling that I had was to call him and wish him a very happy birthday…unfortunately our long distance service is not that advanced and so I just chatted with him in my own way.  His professionalism and integrity has been my guiding light in my business; his warmth yet firm way of discipline in the growth of his children have been my inspiration with my own children.  His intelligence and honesty has encouraged me to follow in his footsteps… and strangely enough every time I have a question in preparation of an old family favorite, I go to the phone to call for his advise then realize that I now must hear his words and follow his instructions thru our private conversations.  Today I celebrate the birthday of a wonderful man - Tomorrow or the next day you may be celebrating someone special.  No matter how many years have passed those special to us remain in our hearts, take our hands and guide us and most of all are loved and missed.  Happy Birthday Daddy!

06
September 2012
       
For the past thirty years plus, I have had the honor of assisting brides and grooms in making their wedding day come true.  On September 1, 2012, Brownstone Place had the pleasure of producing a lovely Persian wedding and the Sofreh Ceremony Table was stellar!  Many couples choose to contract the style and design for this traditional table; some couple choose to physically setup the table themselves on their wedding day.  This table was a combination of family love, couple devotion and a little assistance from their event planner.  Honestly, I feel it is one of the most beautiful tables ever.  What do you think?

For the past thirty years plus, I have had the honor of assisting brides and grooms in making their wedding day come true.  On September 1, 2012, Brownstone Place had the pleasure of producing a lovely Persian wedding and the Sofreh Ceremony Table was stellar!  Many couples choose to contract the style and design for this traditional table; some couple choose to physically setup the table themselves on their wedding day.  This table was a combination of family love, couple devotion and a little assistance from their event planner.  Honestly, I feel it is one of the most beautiful tables ever.  What do you think?

05
September 2012
       

This past weekend marked the end of the summer and we certainly realized that as we drove up the 101 Coast to Santa Barbara for am amazing wedding at Four Seasons Resort for a lovely ethnic wedding.  What usually takes no more than 45 minutes, this trip was  2.5hours bumper to bumper all the way.

I love doing ethnic events and this particular event really was amazing.  After many years in this industry, I can honestly say the their Sofren Table was one of the most beautiful I have ever seen.  The waterford crystal, the hand hand lace w/seed pearl Turr and even a sterling Esphand - Unbelievable!  And to crown the entire day was the fact that the clients were so gracious and wonderful.  Thank you for this wonderful experience - This is why the years continue go move forward and I am still producing lovely events… I will be posting a photo soon.

30
August 2012
       

Today on Facebook I indicated that I was in favor of a speech that made sense to me.  As a result I received several messages suggesting that it may not be in my best interest to ‘not roll with the flow’… Roll with the flow???  After the many years that I have occupied this earth, I have always been taught that as an American the freedom of belief is mine.  Apparently some feel that that is not the case so please let me say as an exercise of my freedom of speech, that I am allowed to believe, think and speak if I so choose as it IS my right as an American.  I do not have the right to viciously offend or attack anyone for believing, thinking or speaking differently than I as each and everyone of us have those same rights…  Roll with the flow?  We all have a brain, we all have had the opportunity to read, study and learn about any topic we so choose and with that said, roll with the flow certainly does not apply.  A little food for thought especially now!

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August 2012
       

It has been some time since my last blog but I do have a good reason…an out of state move, travels to Germany and Austria, events and very important, spending time with my family.  We are all busy but even with a very full plate, there is so much happening in the world today, we all must stay in tune… There are two subjects that I pride myself in never discussing and they are politics and religion; but funny thing, at present, whenever you turn on the TV or radio, walk down the street or through a shopping mall or even walk out to the mailbox to get your mail, those two subjects seem to be the main topic of everyones conversation.  Conversations about women’s rights, unemployment, the continued gas price hikes and the freedom to believe freely.

A couple of months ago, I took all seven of my grand munchkins to Reagan Library and it was amazing.  Upon entrance into the facility there is a recorded speech given by our former President in which the questions are asked, "are you better off today than you were four years ago?  Is unemployment, house and gas prices better now than they were four years ago” and you know what?  As an american citizen our honest answer to these questions may just be the the deciding factor to end all of the frustration and concerns of the american people today - Think about those questions then answer from an honest and pure heart.  You may just make the difference.

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June 2012
       
RELAXING ON THE LAKE:  It is June 29th and already it has been a wild and busy season for weddings.  In spite of the June gloom every weekend has been a wedding weekend.  The move from Lake Tahoe back to California was a great success - so nice to be back and close to family and the grand munchkins.  But hubby was not as excited about the move back as I so a little compromise was made - A new Thor Motor Coach which is where I am blogging from today.  OK, I have always said that my idea of roughing it was a weekend at the Biltmore; however, this thing is like a little house on wheels!
Our son and his family come to Lake Havasu every 4th of July with their boat so we decided that this would be a great time to make our maiden voyage in the coach. So we made our visit to Camping World, packed up and set out (with two of our grand munchkins) on our first trip.  We are on the island right next to the London Bridge on the beach edge.  Yesterday while sipping on a cup of coffee and working on my next book I looked up and saw something that I have never seen before.  Four nuns in full habit just rowing along in perfect harmony. Bare in mind that it was 116 degrees but that did not seem to detour them - it put a whole new spin on the words, ‘holy water’ as shared by my friend Jack.  The moral of this story…everyone needs to take time and relax!  

RELAXING ON THE LAKE:  It is June 29th and already it has been a wild and busy season for weddings.  In spite of the June gloom every weekend has been a wedding weekend.  The move from Lake Tahoe back to California was a great success - so nice to be back and close to family and the grand munchkins.  But hubby was not as excited about the move back as I so a little compromise was made - A new Thor Motor Coach which is where I am blogging from today.  OK, I have always said that my idea of roughing it was a weekend at the Biltmore; however, this thing is like a little house on wheels!

Our son and his family come to Lake Havasu every 4th of July with their boat so we decided that this would be a great time to make our maiden voyage in the coach. So we made our visit to Camping World, packed up and set out (with two of our grand munchkins) on our first trip.  We are on the island right next to the London Bridge on the beach edge.  Yesterday while sipping on a cup of coffee and working on my next book I looked up and saw something that I have never seen before.  Four nuns in full habit just rowing along in perfect harmony. Bare in mind that it was 116 degrees but that did not seem to detour them - it put a whole new spin on the words, ‘holy water’ as shared by my friend Jack.  The moral of this story…everyone needs to take time and relax!